Do you and your lover have an anniversary looming, or do they have a landmark special occasion or birthday coming up? Whatever the reason, the fact is this: everyone loves getting letters. So what could be more perfect to spoil your girlfriend or boyfriend with, on her special day than a hand written love note?
With the age of the Internet destroying, or at the very least making physical communications with others somewhat scary, a hand written note is a rare find and marks the ultimate sign of romance in the digital age.
Yet, as much as you love your partner and as well as you may know them, many still get stumped on what to say or how to express their feelings when sitting down to write their note. Tutorials abound throughout the internet on step-by-step instructions on how to write something sweet for your sweetie. Seems a little impersonal, doesn’t it?
Tips on writing a love letter for your partner
Lucky for you, we’ve readied some great tips on how to write the perfect love letter for your beau.
#1 Compliments will get you everywhere. You heard me. It doesn’t matter the gender. Men and women love to be adored, so make sure you mention something *or several things!* you absolutely adore about your lover.
#2 Speak from the heart, not from a pre-written outline. Speaking from the heart is easier said than done, isn’t it? Strangely enough, expressing yourself to your partner may be one of the hardest parts of writing your letter. Sure, you can say that you love your mate, appreciate them, never want to live without them, tell them they’re pretty and that they make you laugh… but then what? Those compliments aren’t exactly going to fill up an entire page’s worth of cursive.
This is why people commonly search the Internet for a template for letter writing. While this may work for wedding thank-you cards, or sympathy notes, looking for a pre-written love letter is a big romance no-no!
#3 Mention a specific experience. One of the best ways to connect in your letter is to mention a specific experience you’ve gone through together and how it made you stronger, made you laugh, or moved your heart. Not only will this give your partner something fond to look back on, but it’ll show that you wrote a letter that’s not just full of sweet yet generic niceties, but filled with things specifically about them.
#4 Use a fantastic quote. Quotes are the perfect romantic addition to any letter. It’s a lovely little way of throwing some poetry into your letter, without giving up what makes it personal.
Famous 1920s writer F. Scott Fitzgerald is highly quoteable. His romantic gems such as: “They slipped briskly into an intimacy from which they never recovered” or “You are the finest, loveliest, tenderest, and most beautiful person I have ever known – and even that is an understatement,” is sure to have your lover swooning.
If old writers aren’t your thing, use funny or romantic quotes from shows or movies you both enjoy, like Woody Allen’s lighthearted narrative: “I was nauseous and tingly all over. I was either in love, or I had smallpox.”
#5 Talk about their achievements. Make sure you mention at least one of their achievements in your letter. If your letter is congratulating them on a new job, talk about all the hard work they put into getting to where they are now in their professional life.
If the letter or card is for their birthday, throw in something funny like: “I can’t believe you’re still kicking around after *hilarious inside-joke.*” If you are writing a letter or card because of an anniversary, talk about anything they’ve sacrificed, be it family relationships, fights with friends, putting up with your bad habits or serious conditions. Mention key things they’ve done for your relationship and be sure to tell them how much you appreciate it.
#6 Don’t force yourself to write a novel.If you want to write your partner a letter, but you aren’t a man of many words, then by all means keep it short. Even if you simply tell her you love her and the last “X-many-years” have been the happiest of your life, she’s sure to love it, so long as it’s from your heart.
Don’t feel the need to write an expansive letter just to prove your love. Odds are if you’re forcing it, she’ll be able to tell. Keep it short and sweet if that’s your style.